It isn't giving up on someone when you clearly know something is heading in the wrong direction. Sometimes, staying any longer than you must, even in friendship can lead you to unwanted disaster. It isn't your heart or brain that gives you thes
e signals - it is intuition, a survival instinct from deeper within.
Have you felt like you dislike someone, even when they seem to be perfectly charming to you? Or that you like someone, no matter what they do to you? Well - that feeling deep down is what I'm talking about. Not heart or brain, but intuition. Once you start becoming attentive to it, you will know what to do with said feeling.
Sometimes you trust someone for no apparent reason, even when the practical side to you warns you against it, telling you that you know nothing about them. Sometimes you don't trust someone, irrespective of what you've been through together, and no matter how much you know each other. The former is not exactly naivete and the latter is not exactly stemming from a suspicious nature, because if it were, you would feel the same about everybody, not a selected few. Plus, different people give off different vibes, if you pay close attention. What they say and do speaks a whole lot about them.
So it all starts from looking withing, getting a deeper understanding of yourself, and then, trusting yourself to be making the correct decisions and judgement, and then, keep listening. This is a continuous process, as people are ever changing. They change because of the circumstances they are faced with and because of the people they meet and a number of other reasons, but they change, and so do their attitudes, opinions and feelings. So when you listen very carefully, you will know to think on your feet, to form your own opinions and to make your own decisions, and keep moving on, as you will realize that, in reality, nothing and no one is ever permanent. So you just live life the way God gifted it to you, and live one day at a time, making friends as you go along, instead of coming back to meet the same people. It is because, when you make friends as you go along, you have the chance to change as well, into someone you truly wish to be - to keep starting over, and to keep improving yourself.
As you may have heard, a wise man learns from others' mistakes. So, your experiences and lessons in life increases in proportion to the number of people you have the chance of meeting and befriending. This also gives you the chance to keep every friendship going at the same pace.
The reason I even told you all this is because you could steer yourself through life, friendships and relationships purely depending on intuition. It is a wonderful thing that strengthens and empowers you like nothing else can. What's better is that as you go through life depending on it, you would get a more fine-tuned, more detailed picture of the people you meet, even without talking much - sometimes, even without talking at all.
However, you mustn't strongly reject someone you get bad vibes from. Not always. Merely be careful around them, and avoid them in a way that you don't get noticed. I also must point out the importance of watching what you say. In other words, if you have to meet them everyday, pretend to have other plans or - just skillfully remain superficial, steering the conversation away from anything personal or anything related to anyone. Do not volunteer information or opinions. Merely state the obvious. There is absolutely no better way of handling it.
Have you felt like you dislike someone, even when they seem to be perfectly charming to you? Or that you like someone, no matter what they do to you? Well - that feeling deep down is what I'm talking about. Not heart or brain, but intuition. Once you start becoming attentive to it, you will know what to do with said feeling.
Sometimes you trust someone for no apparent reason, even when the practical side to you warns you against it, telling you that you know nothing about them. Sometimes you don't trust someone, irrespective of what you've been through together, and no matter how much you know each other. The former is not exactly naivete and the latter is not exactly stemming from a suspicious nature, because if it were, you would feel the same about everybody, not a selected few. Plus, different people give off different vibes, if you pay close attention. What they say and do speaks a whole lot about them.
So it all starts from looking withing, getting a deeper understanding of yourself, and then, trusting yourself to be making the correct decisions and judgement, and then, keep listening. This is a continuous process, as people are ever changing. They change because of the circumstances they are faced with and because of the people they meet and a number of other reasons, but they change, and so do their attitudes, opinions and feelings. So when you listen very carefully, you will know to think on your feet, to form your own opinions and to make your own decisions, and keep moving on, as you will realize that, in reality, nothing and no one is ever permanent. So you just live life the way God gifted it to you, and live one day at a time, making friends as you go along, instead of coming back to meet the same people. It is because, when you make friends as you go along, you have the chance to change as well, into someone you truly wish to be - to keep starting over, and to keep improving yourself.
As you may have heard, a wise man learns from others' mistakes. So, your experiences and lessons in life increases in proportion to the number of people you have the chance of meeting and befriending. This also gives you the chance to keep every friendship going at the same pace.
The reason I even told you all this is because you could steer yourself through life, friendships and relationships purely depending on intuition. It is a wonderful thing that strengthens and empowers you like nothing else can. What's better is that as you go through life depending on it, you would get a more fine-tuned, more detailed picture of the people you meet, even without talking much - sometimes, even without talking at all.
However, you mustn't strongly reject someone you get bad vibes from. Not always. Merely be careful around them, and avoid them in a way that you don't get noticed. I also must point out the importance of watching what you say. In other words, if you have to meet them everyday, pretend to have other plans or - just skillfully remain superficial, steering the conversation away from anything personal or anything related to anyone. Do not volunteer information or opinions. Merely state the obvious. There is absolutely no better way of handling it.
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