I’ve realized that the most challenging thing in life is to come to terms with the fact that not everything you need is available to you right when you reach for it. Quite often, life makes you work for it before you have your needs met – the right job, the right partner, the right <fill in the blank>. This is especially apparent if your needs are quite specific and you believe that, as intelligent people, we need to be more discerning in the choices we make.
People who settle for what comes easy generally live a highly dissatisfied life. That is the unfortunate truth – the good things in life are certainly earned. People who go with the flow constitute a large proportion of the population, so the belief that people must conform to societal beliefs and rules has been quite pervasive. Less so now that in previous generations, but it still exists in one form or the other. Everywhere you look, you see people who are settling for less because they believe in a perceived timeline that their life must follow, and are strong enforcers of this belief. Patiently waiting for something that suits them best is painted as stupid, "irresponsible" and other people fervently lecture the people who have the courage to take the road less traveled that they shouldn't be wasting their time or making these large sacrifices.
Let me confirm that it is always much harder to swim against the tide, but when a person truly understands the risks in ‘going with the flow’, they try to be more conscious of the process of making the series of decisions that result in an individual having the unique experience that unfolds, to eventually be their life.
When a person takes the road less traveled, they are consciously putting themselves through some unique experiences that force them to take a good hard look at their ways and beliefs. The more enlightened among these people adjust their outlook according to the new information they have. They embrace change and are willing to rise to the challenges this new path presents to them. A person who routinely chooses the road less traveled is ultimately a highly evolved individual, as a result of the experience they gain from being faced with a slew of unfamiliar and/or challenging situations.
One must keep in mind that taking the road less traveled often means that they are most often more prone to experience disappointment, failure, a sense of feeling lost and unsure of where they are headed. The uncertainty and the challenges in this path are what convince most people to take the easier route. However, it is important to remember that these transformative moments are absolutely essential because the better things are usually far more respected when they are earned; and routinely get more difficult before things fall into place, and the person is finally rewarded for their patience and persistence. The outcome of this experience is that the person is now permanently transformed into an evolved individual, and the rewards would be in kind.
In case you’re one of these people, take heart and remember to hang in there. The journey ain’t over yet - good times are coming – just don’t you give up. As difficult as this may seem at the time, hold on to the belief that when the time is right, you will thank yourself for not settling for less, because the person you are becoming would be rewarded with far more than you ever imagined. The version of you receiving the reward would have been through several rounds of upgrading and polishing, that what you dreamt as the earliest version is chump change for the new and improved version. Don't ever apologize for evolving and waiting for something or someone worthy of you.
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